What is love? How do you know when you found it? And how long will it stay when you find it? These questions been deliberated and written about for centuries, from poets to novelists to the great bard himself, Shakespeare, the celebrated playwright who probably wrote the most famous tragic love story between Romeo and Juliette. The greatest love stories in history revealed that many of the famous lovers met a tragic end, however, they show us that love is stronger than anything else in the world. So congratulations to you that have found love and to all those hoping to find it someday, of course, with a happier ending.
Love is a force of nature…..It strikes like lightning, it is unpredictable and overwhelming. Just as it is impossible to command the moon, the stars and the wind to capitulate to our whims and fancies. We cannot invite, command, dictate, or demand how, where and love expresses itself. The one command characteristic of love is the overpowering, alluring, seductive and tantalizing wish to be together as one, inseparable, two souls intertwined. Lovers who believe in each other and their love, even if the world does not recognize or approve of their union.
Love is free. It cannot be bought, sold or traded. Money cannot buy love. But one can buy sex or marriage partners, loyalty, companionship, a virgin, an undivided attention or an orgasm. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, bargains or rewards. Marriage has certain restrictions based on the law, property rights and contracts, but marriage has little to do with love. As this famous song by Bonnie Raitt suggests, ‘I can’t make you love me,….you can’t make your heart be something it won’t’.
As I wrote in my last blog title ‘Hatred and Mental Instability’, that the two most intense of human emotions – love and hate – are intimately linked within the human brain, according to biological scientific study, and are the same nervous circuits in the brain responsible for romantic love………can result in similar acts of extreme behavior – although love and hate appears to be polar opposites. I believe the heart plays a more significant role in the feelings of love by receiving information from our senses of smell, taste, touch, seeing and hearing. When we are loved, we tend to feel it in our guts, we learn to recognize when we are being loved and also recognize love for another.
There is really no mystery about being in love, it is practical and down-to-earth. In order for love to be real love, it has to be expressed as an action. A loving touch, a deep caress, a loving smile, sweet kind words of appreciation, getting caught in the rain, a long drive to nowhere or an extended stay in the bathtub are evidence of romantic love. There is often tangible proof when you are loved. When you are treated with love, your heart feels that love, as King Solomon wrote in the book of Proverbs 27:19, ‘As water reflects a man’s face back at him, so is the heart of one [person] to another’.
Love radiates like the sun and shines through the darkest clouds, independently of our fears and desires. Love comes on its own time, without a schedule.